Ask For What You Want

By Carolyn Kates, Clarity with Carolyn

Speaking up for ourselves or asking for what we need or want is not easy nor comfortable for many of us.

We long to ask for what we want,  to be heard, seen, and respected. But, we were trained to "hold our tongues" in an effort to "keep the peace."

However, as a result of suppressing our emotions, needs, and desires, we end up feeling resentful, helpless, and angry! And, that anger and resentment make it almost impossible to ask for what we want or need in a way that other people can hear us.

It is time, today, to consciously set your intentions to speak up for yourself and ask for what you want or need before you get angry and resentful.

It is time to stop being the "good, agreeable person”, who puts everyone else's needs before your own, or definitely doesn’t rock the boat.

Today, acknowledge that just because you suppress your true feelings and needs, they don’t disappear or go away; they transform into something else. For some people, they transform into explosive anger. Other people’s suppressed emotions manifest as depression, anxiety, or some other physical illness. But you can change that today.

Today, recognize that you are worthy of getting your needs met. You are worthy of asking for what you need and want and deserve things to be right for you. Speaking up for your needs does not make you a difficult person. It means you respect yourself and know that you deserve better than what you are receiving.

Ask For What You Want

Today, ask for what you want when you become aware of your need. Do not wait for you to become resentful and angry to act or to ask for what you need or want. 

Today,  know that speaking up for your needs does not make you a difficult person. It means you respect yourself and know that you deserve better than what you are receiving.

Today, do something different and respect you and your needs enough to ask for what you need and want.

Just for today, I am free to speak up for myself. I appreciate all that I do. I am good enough just as I am. I speak up for myself. I ask for what I want. I reclaim my power now and create the life I desire. Life supports me in every possible way.

And so it is.